The Haunting of Bly Manor: What does ‘it’s you, it’s me, it’s us’ mean?

Understanding ‘it’s you, it’s me, it’s us’ on The Haunting of Bly Manor

The Haunting of Bly Manor was certainly more of a love story than a ghost story. It was also a bittersweet, haunting tale that kept us theorizing until the end.

One statement that came up a lot at the end was ‘it’s you, it’s me, it’s us.’ Peter had realized what the statement could do, encouraging Becca to use it. Then Miles said it at Peter’s request. Dani was the one to say it without truly knowing what it would mean but knowing it would potentially save Flora.

What did the statement mean? Why was it so important on The Haunting of Bly Manor?

Inviting a ghost in

The statement was pretty simple. Ghosts would be able to possess a human without the human wanting it. Because of that, the ghost would eventually be kicked out.

Peter realized that a human would need to invite a person in to allow the ghost to remain there. When he told Becca, it seems he believed it would mean both ghost and person would live in the same body at the same time. It would mean a person wasn’t tucked away into a memory while the ghost took control of the body.

That wasn’t the case. Peter realized he was alone in the body, so he walked Becca’s body into the lake and killed her.

A potential way to get off the property

One of the big issues for Peter was being stuck on the property. He needed to find a way off, but he wanted to do it with Becca.

So, he got Miles to invite him in. Flora would invite Becca in.

Would it work? We’d never really get to know. Not truly. Flora never invited Becca in, with Becca knowing that it was wrong. It led to Dani being grabbed by the Lady in the Lake, and Flora jumped on the bed to get the Lady in the Lake’s attention.

A sacrifice to save Flora on The Haunting of Bly Manor

In the end, “it’s you, it’s me, it’s us” was a sacrifice. Dani said it to the Lady in the Lake when Flora was being taken to the depths to her death.

The statement was an invitation but it was also a sacrifice. Dani invited Viola Lloyd in, allowing Viola to no longer haunt Bly Manor. The ghosts were allowed to leave and Flora was saved.

Dani was still allowed to leave the property. It suggests that Peter and Becca would have had a way off if they’d been invited into Miles and Flora’s body. Dani even got a decade and change to live her life with Jamie.

Eventually, Viola would take over. Dani made another sacrifice, becoming the Lady in the Lake at Bly Manor to keep Jamie and others safe.

“It’s you, it’s me, it’s us” became the statement that would break the curse.

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